Thursday, September 11, 2008

Entrepreneurship Forums..

In line with yesterday's post…here are some entrepreneurship forums I accidently came across…is it a sign?? Is it fate's way of telling me to move on??

(Read http://lipak.wordpress.com/2008/09/11/the-language-of-signs/)

..As usual I really don’t know!!


Check it out…and tell me if you have heard of them!

Young Leaders Forum - http://www.imcyew.org/
The Young Leader's Forum (formely YEW) was setup by the Indian Merchant Chambers in 2001. Our mission is to create a platform for young Indian leaders to build network, grow and realize their own potential. Through cutting-edge events, forums, site visits and workshops (10 every year) the forum aspires to empower provide opportunities and expose young Indians to a cross section of leadership issues. The YLF will be the youth platform most known for identifying and empowering leaders


TiE Mumbai - http://tiemumbai.org/
TiE Mumbai is part of a global network of entrepreneurs which mentors, supports and facilitates the growth of new enterprises. TiE Mumbai was seeded in October 1999, and formally launched on December 7th, 1999. Today, TiE Mumbai is a multi-faceted organization and is an active TiE chapter dedicated to fostering entrepreneurship leading to wealth and job creation.

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Entrepreneurship….

I dream to start something on my own someday but I don’t know if I will really ever get down to doing it.
So many people who are working and have this ‘loose’ dream that they want to become entrepreneurs…Some manage to go out there and take off …others always keep talking about it.
I have a feeling that I belong to the second category…..but I really really want to move to the first and actually take the step just quit my job and do something on my own.


But I don’t have the guts…and I really don’t know why! It is not that I have major responsibilities in life or in dire need of money and cannot take the risk. I don’t know what is holding me back.


I don’t know what comes first….
· Quit your job and then think of what to do to fill your time and make money
· First have plan and then say good bye to work


I would say ideally feel have a plan and then say good bye!


But while I am still working..…life is comfortable…..I almost like the routine..…I like going to work…I like most people at work(my boss can be a pain many a times..but overall he is not too bad..infact he is quite nice when he is not screaming!)…and I like the paycheck that goes into my account….it is overall comfortable…..so I don’t really really have the need to rock the boat!


So life goes on….I don’t know if I am doing anything significant and meaningful at work…but I am sure I must be learning something cause there is so much I don’t know.....


Overall….I really don’t know where I am going with work and what do I want to achieve…


What I know for sure is that ultimately I most definitely want to quit a 9 to 9 job …


It would be nice to do something on my own..I want to have my own clinic/chain of physiotherapy/ wellness centers where I can employ people so I don’t have to be there all the time and simultaneously I want to become a corporate trainer/teacher..(?!) wherein I take periodic sessions for adult groups….maybe become a part time RJ…and a part time Yoga Teacher!
‘Part Time’ is a very important word for me….I love variety… It would be so wonderful to be able to play multiple roles at the same time…be a corporate trainer some days a month….a yoga teacher in the evenings….and an RJ on sundays …. run your own wellness centers and make enough money in the process!


My current job…I really don’t know if it is taking me where I want to go….maybe it is…I am not too sure...because I don’t know the path to get where I want to go….


There are certain themes that are important to me….
· Learn/do something new and different...have a variety
· Have fun!
· Meet People..
· Have some flexibility


And as I write this I realize…my current job provides me with all these things at least by and large most of the times…It may or may not be directly taking me towards my end goal…..or I may just be right on track..


An anology that comes to mind to explain the situation: I think I want to go to Delhi(own clinic/Trainer/Yoga Teacher/ RJ) and have Chole Bature (part time work/variety/multiple role)…I am sitting in a train(my current job) and having Alu Poori(learning something new/having fun/meeting people etc)…hopefully the train is going towards Delhi(my own clinic etc)…even it is does not….I anyways don’t know which train goes there!
So bottom line no point in jumping off the train as of now… if I do I will end up missing the Alu Poori that I am currently getting and be stranded…as I do not knowing which train to catch to get to Delhi! And you never know…this train may just be on the right track and take me to Delhi…well even if it does not and reaches Bangalore…I may just like Bangalore better!!

Bottom Line : "Enjoy the Journey"…

Tuesday, September 09, 2008

Stat Counter…

Discovered something new today on “stat counter” thanks to a friend at work who is also a fellow blogger.
We were discussing blogs as usual at work in between our attempts to do work and he was showing off the wonderful statistics that wordpress has to offer. I was really quite fascinated and had half a mind of shifting from blogger to wordpress so I would also get to know some more details on the people who have visited my blog etc.


I use the “stat counter” to see the number of hits that I get on my blog…(If it is a decent number it keeps me motivated to continue writing!).


All these days I have been looking at the default page which gave the summary on the page loads/new visitors and returning visitors and I suddenly realized there is so much more stat counter has to offer! So duh of me not to realize there was a whole menu to choose from and get interesting statistics on your blog!


The stat counter which is a free counter gives you over 23 other options to choose from and I was restricted to only the summary! How Duh!


Here are some of the interesting things stat counter has to offer..


1. Summary : Well well….they only thing I would see all these days!
2. Came From: An interesting statistic…It tells you how people reached your site…I realized people I don’t even know have referred me on their blog!
3. Keyword Analysis : This is a cool statistic to see…it analysis the key words people have put on google to get to my blog. I did not even realize that my blog was available for google search!
4. Recent Keyword Activity: This is a continuation of the previous one…..what was very interesting was that 8/20 google searches that landed on my blog were to do with my ear wax post!
5. Recent Came From: This gives details on the recent visitors on your blog. Where they came from, what browser, OS etc they use, their city, IP address and even how long they stayed on the site etc etc! Quite Informative
6. Exit Link Activity : Gives details on How many times your links to other websites are being clicked by your visitors….definitly interesting to know!
7. Downloads: This was a surprise….did not realize people download stuff from the site!
8. Download Activity : Gives stats related to downloads...a revelation!
9. Visit Length : This gives the amount of time someone spent on your site.. :-) good to know..some people have spent over 30 mins here!

10. Recent Visitor Map: This one is super cool..it gives a world map and the peole who have visited you form various sites as dots on the map
11. Country/State/City/ISP : This one is my favorite….it show you the people who have visited your blog by country city state etc! Among other countries I have had visitors from Tanzania..! I wish everyone who came to the blog left a post!

Monday, September 08, 2008

Mistakes....

Everyone makes mistakes….and I make plenty!


Type of Mistakes

1) Known: You know it maybe ‘wrong’….but you still do it…..these are the “greys” in life. I believe that life is not all black and white…and there are a lot of things which are grey!
2) Unknown: It is a genuine slip…and you realize it once it is done. This is actul mistake! It just happens and you realize…oh my god!
3) Blind : You don’t even realize you have made a mistake, but others around you get hurt and upset. Being a PS I am sure I do many of these..!


I made a mistake today and was very upset about it….not a very big deal….but I was still quite upset with myself…It was one of those mistakes which was somewhere in between the known and unknown…..Your intentions are right….but you still don’t say/do the right things at the right time…and you immediately realize…oh oh… Looks like I said the wrong thing or I did not say the right thing…and feel so stupid!

And then what do you do…?? How do you make amends?

Is realizing and repenting enough….?? Is having the correct intentions good enough??

I really don’t know….

I remember someone from my Buddhist practice group once told me that …realizing and repenting in not enough and you need to make amends…

She had read this somewhere and remembered a chana wala in the lane she use to flick chana’s from as a kid for the kicks, she actually went back to the shocked chana wala’s son who was still selling chana’s in the same lane and paid him 50 bucks!

I don’t know if it is a good idea….but it sure made me feel better…made me feel a little in control..

I though I could actually do something to amend a mistake….may be not directly cause words once said cannot be taken back...but indirectly!

Sunday, September 07, 2008

Karjat Calling…

Well the trek worked out finally and it was rocking!!!
After much debate on time/place/mode of transport 11 of us set out to go to Saguna Baug and then we moved on to a waterfall….had a wonderful time!

I am up since 5 in the morning thius extremely exhausted now to write any more….so just check out the snaps…
And if you want to read more..Check out my friends blog….. http://lipak.wordpress.com/


Update:10th September
Sorry need to pull out the snaps...
Update :14th September
Another friend wrote about the trip...check it out!

Saturday, September 06, 2008

Coordinators Hat…

The last trek we went to Lonavala was wonderful and we wanted to go for another trip before it stops raining and we believe that the more the merrier…

So all of us decided to call “other” friends…and make a biiiig group….and we did….we are 11 of us in the last count I took…

From the last two days I have been trying to coordinate the whole thing and it has been such a pain!!!…

No consensus on place!
No consensus on time!
No consensus on mode of transport!
No consensus on anything!!

I have an Hyderabad group and we called ourselves the “Junglee Musafir”…and one of my friends Ria would always wear this hat of the coordinator….and now I understand why she would be so frustrated by the end of it!

But end of the every trip she would plan….we would have a ball of a time…..lets us see if this trip tomorrow works out…

Friday, September 05, 2008

The Week That Was : 30th Aug to 5th Sep!

Well end of the week…don’t know what to write….so I guess I can put one of those posts on the week that was….

Saturday : 30th August
Celebrated Saturday and slept all morning! Finished the book “Earning the Laundry Stripes”...Went for the Teach India session only to be disappointed as no kids turned up and then went to play Badminton in the evening….did not get to play too much…but that is my fault I went really late but I jogged in the ground so it was overall a good trip to the club!

Sunday : 31th August

Slept all morning and watched TV...all ‘intelligent’ boring stuff like the news et all….cause I got into trouble for not knowing enough on current affairs on Friday…(long story! may write more latter..)
Evening met some friends…and went for a movie…but that was a fiasco….we we found a nice chai place at New Bombay called “Masala Chai”…and chilled out….chatting…played truth and dare …(All truth no dare!) Over all was fun…I had gone with a group of people I did not know too well….so the fiasco at the movie hall(Read Fame Raghuleela Fiasco!) was almost a good think as we all got to know each other better!

Monday:1st September
Normal day at work…..Highlight of the day…I came home and went for an half an hour jog at 9.30 in the night and worked up some sweat!

Tuesday : 2nd September
Work as usual…and then went and watched Rock On for the night show....already post a post on this!
Wednesday: 3rd September
Ganpati Bapa Moriya! Had a whole lot of people coming home was good fun!

Thusday: 4th September
Took a day off from work for Ganpati Visarjan

Friday 5th September
Normal day at work…went out for dinner with some office friends and did the general crib routine..and the talks on what we dream to do! Overall a fun evening!

Well so overall an nice week….with two holidays in the middle of the week and a lot of action!

Thursday, September 04, 2008

Ganpati Visarjan…

Visarjan done….I feel like writing on of those school time essays which end with “we were tired but happy!” but chill that is not what I am going to do.


From the time we have started keeping Ganpati at home almost 11 years back, the visarjan has always been at Juhu Beach…


For all those of you’ll who have never seen Ganpati immersion at the beach it is a site worth seeing…it is beautiful…the sea is enormous with and the Ganpati idols are majestic.. The beach is vast with people dotting every available inch….it is very windy and you can feel the salted humid wind hitting your skin…there are people huddled at regular intervals on the sand around their ganpati idol doing the pooja and trying to keep the flame burning despite the breeze…you can hear the aarti at different stages…synchronized claps…jingle of the pooja bells…all interspersed with roar of the waves and the sound of the wind in the background…


We would do our pooja at home…walk down the garden steps…reach the beach…huddle….do the final pooja…carry the ganpati to a certain distance out into the sea and then get one of the many boys around to take it further into the water..and stand in the sea with the sand disappearing from under the feet and watch...


Somehow we would always go in the night and I can so clearly remember the moon shining on to the sea waves and getting reflected back…we would see the boy carrying your ganpati walking into the darkness of the sea …and then he would turn around and there was just enough moonlight for us to catch a last glimpse of our ganpati….


It was a very private and spiritual moment out there on a crowded beach…..


It was very special but it is now that I have actually realized the real value of it…as this year was different…


Since we have moved away from the sea front; we went to a Talav (Pond) near home to do the Ganpati Visarjan…it was a very different experience….. It was brightly lit…lot of noise….not too much wind so our Diya was burning brightly without us having to huddle to keep the wind away……As for the moon…earth was too brightly lit by halogen lights for me to notice the moon if it was there…


We put the Ganpati Moorti on a wall in the corner…did the pooja…. There was a narrow gate guarded by Policemen to go down the talav and only one person was allowed to go down the steps that to upto a certain point and not into the water….my brother managed to go past the gate…We were not allowed to go down the steps….and were craning our necks from across the grill to catch a last glimpse of our Ganpati with the policewomen trying to shoo us off and whistling into our ears….One of the volunteer boys carried the ganpati into the pond….and tak…its over……

I am not even sure I spotted my Ganpati going down…We are asking each other…"Ho Gaya kya..?” And then someone says…"Nahi hua…..hua hota to Sam(my bro) would have come up by now” and then we realized that visarjan ho gaya…and Sam came back from another gate which was the exit gate from the pond…!


So it was done…..quick….Well organized….well coordinated and managed by the police and the volunteers…..but so mechanical that somehow the sprit was lost..


Done…One more year of Ganesh Chaturti is over…. As usual I always feel it gets over very quickly….the house feels so empty after visarjan…everyone who gets Ganpati at home/colony will know exactly what I mean…


Overall been a wonderful two days…

Wednesday, September 03, 2008

Ganpati Bapa Morya!

We brought Ganpati Bapa home today! Was a nice day....had lots of people coming home!

My old friends from Juhu....new friends from SGI....new friends made at Badminton court all came home for ganpati darshan.....and many for the first time!!

Neighbors Relatives Friends..... I love people visiting!!

I guess i just love being with people...

Not in a mood to write much...so will sign off and go read......brush....pray....maybe do a Tarro Card reading ....and go to sleep!

Tuesday, September 02, 2008

Rock On Rocks!

Finally saw “Rock On”…and it Rocks! I am not a rock music fan per se….and cant really directly relate to being a part of a band etc….but the movie is great and the music is good…..It is one of those movies you come out smiling….:-) and feeling good…
Farhan Aktar looks hot……Arjun Rampal….looks like a looser…….well that is his character in the film so he looks that part! Good acting by everyone….Prachi Desai was also not too bad….but I somehow did not like her hair style in the movie.....they could have done better with it!
Purab’s character could have been better defined….there is not much about his family or relationships or anything….looks like the did not have time so they cut out his track…
Watched the late night show….but did not sleep through the movie….so basically it was entertaining enough!
Tired now….going to sleep…..go watch the movie! And “Don’t download the songs Buy the CD” (This comes on screen before the end titles start exactly at a point when you are thinking to yourself…ah lets go home and get the songs!)

Monday, September 01, 2008

Personality Plus Classification!

Florence Littauer classifies people into four personality types. I had attended a workshop on this a few months back and then I found a book written by her a few weeks back and it revived my interest. It is quite an accurate classification and now every time I look at someone ...I think..ah he is a PC/PS...or a PM/PP...or eh....this was a typical PS statement..If nothing else it is fun to bucket people in different categories....and tell someone...you are a PC...and have them look at you in confusion! (This by the way would be a typical PS statement!)
Check out this link and do the test for yourself..and do remember to tell me the results!

http://www.oneishy.com/personality/personality_test.php


By the way…..I am a PS/PC….read on an you’ll know what that means!

Popular Sanguine (PS) : The Extrovert The Talker The Optimist
Appealing personality
Talkative, Storyteller
Life of the Party
Good sense of humor
Memory for color
Physically holds on to listener
Emotional and demonstrative
Enthusiastic and expressive
Cheerful and bubbling over
Curious
Good on stage
Wide-eyed and innocent
Lives in the present
Changeable disposition
Sincere at heart
Always a child

Poweful Choleric (PC) : The Extrovert The Doer The Optimist

Born leader
Dynamic and active
Compulsive need for change
Must correct wrongs
Strong-willed and decisive
Unemotional
Not easily discouraged
Independent and self sufficient
Exudes confidence
Can run anything

Perfect Melancholy (PM) :The Introvert The Watcher The Pessimist
Makes friends cautiously
Content to stay in background
Avoids causing attention
Faithful and devoted
Will listen to complaints
Can solve other's problems
Deep concern for other people
Moved to tears with compassion
Seeks ideal mate
Easy to get along with
Pleasant and enjoyable
Inoffensive
Good listener
Dry sense of humor
Enjoys watching people
Has many friends
Has compassion and concern

Peaceful Phlegmatic (PP) :The Introvert The Thinker The Pessimist

Easy to get along with
Pleasant and enjoyable
Inoffensive
Good listener
Dry sense of humor
Enjoys watching people
Has many friends
Has compassion and concern

Sunday, August 31, 2008

Fame Raghuleela Fiasco!

We were all excited about watching Rock On since the reviews were so great. We made a group of about 5 of us forced some of the hesitant ones booked tickets online at the Vashi Fame Raghuleela. There were a lot of seats to choose from so my friend booking tickets choose seats furthest away from the screen and paid online.We reached well on time, picked up our tickets and walked into the cinema hall to find that we have been given front row seats!

The front row seats in the Fame Raghuleela are pathetic… I have seen a lot of movies on the front row but I have never seen such badly placed seats. I don’t know if there is a law on the mandatory minimum distance for the seating to start from the first row….but these seats were literally into the screen.If there is no law and regulatory agencies certifying theatres they should really have some norms on the minimum distance of the first row from the screen. The theater owners would keep on adding rows upto the screen to made money!

Well the girls in the group, were all eager to see “Rock On” with all the hot dudes on screen so adjusting as women are, we were ready to see the movie sitting on the first row….but the boys were indignant on being given the wrong seats despite booking well in advance.

So we too stormed out of the all in support of the boys and demanded for a refund.
We Spoke to the booking staff…they directed us to some other staff and then to the so called “manager” ..let us call him “Mr Rajesh C” who was suppose to be the unit head and he was extremely rude and unreasonable and started blaming us about being wrong and a loud argument ensued with him pointing figers at us and telling us how wrong we were and there are so many people who book tickets online and this has never happned!!
So much for customer service. We were already irritated and his attitude infuriated us!

All we were demanding was give us a credit note so we could watch some other movie. Mr Rajesh had some brilliant ideas. He wanted us to come back for a movie on any weekday Monday to Friday between 8am to 6pm! He looked at us as potential customers to fill his off peak hour slot!
After much loud heated discussion for almost half an hour…. Mr Rajesh finally agreed to give us a credit note which said you can redeem this for 5 tickets @ Rs 150 anytime.


We were royally pissed about our movie plans being screwed up and we walked out of the theatre in a huff with the credit note…but not wanting to look at the face of Fame Raghuleela again.
As we stepped out and met some college kids who wanted to buy 12 tickets for a movie on a Monday morning and someone form our group had a brilliant idea to give our credit note to them take our money and get out of the place so we don’t have to come back.We thought it would be a simple enough logical transaction…we had a credit note for 5 tickets @ Rs 150, so that would make a total of 750 and the kiddos wanted to buy 12 tickets @ Rs 70 each which totaled to Rs 840. So we though we would pay the difference of 90 bucks take our money and walk out and never have to come back again.

But lo behold…. Logical! (whats that!)

The credit note which was made 10 minutes back was examined in detail by the booking agents on the counter. They went into their back office area to find Mr Rajesh….but he had disappeared…must have been taking a rest break….after all fighting with customers who have come to have a good time at the movies can be very strenuous. So the credit note written on the back of the ticket was examined by three other people and finally after almost about 15 minutes , Mr Rajesh arrived and we heaved a sigh of relief…now we can finally finish our transaction and move on an rescue what was left of our evening out.

But lo behold...Wait..!! That was not to be…at least not so soon!
Mr Rajesh did not see the logic of the transaction required!!! (How duh!)
He said we could get 5 tickets in lieu of the credit note and not the amount!! And since the kiddos were buying morning show tickets which were cheaper tickets, they could take 5 tickets on the credit note and we would have to forfeit the rest of the amount!!If we were pissed earlier…now we got mighty pissed now!!!! The logic of 5 tickets in lieu of the credit not obviously did not hold true for tickets that were priced higher than what we had bought!!
We demanded to speak to his manager……we could not believe he was actually the person in charge there he was stupid! His boss…lets call him Mr John..was based out of Pune…we demanded to speak to him cause this man was acting ridiculous!
Our Hero called up his boss and explained the situation...I spoke to Mr Manager’s Manger…Mr John….not much use….he gave me some bullshit about the number of tickets matter….I told him that at this point of time I am an irritated customer…and this would effect not only me but 50 other friends of ours…but Mr Manager’s Manager…said he can’t do much…..
I passed the phone to my friend…who told him… "Ok thank you very much for your customer service…please remember to buy the mid-day tomorrow to check out the coverage” (Or something to that effect!) and we once again walked out.
We apologized to the college kiddo’s and told them to go ahead and buy their own tickets and these idiots don’t seem to want to see logic.

We were hanging around near the booking counter, contemplating what to do next and trying to find a group who wanted to buy 5 tickets from the counter for 150 bucks and make them use our credit note and get out of there and never come back!

Suddenly we see Mr Rajesh….coming running out to the booking counters and calling us inside! He was in a mood of a compromise…he did not want to loose us as customers…He was attempting to give us sales talk…and coming up with some stupid options…We told him…..If you don’t want to loose us as cutomers…refund our money….we are so mighty pissed now that nothing else will work….but Mr Rajesh….was unable to gauge our mood and persisted with the sales talk…” No Sir….(suddenly we were respected again!) if refund the money…you wont come back…unless we had to should at him and tell him cut the crap and give us the money back if you want to save face…get your booking counter to use the credit not in lieu of the next 5 tickets they sell…
I think it finally something struck him……(I think it was a return call from his boss)…and he came out an gave us our money back…not without saying… but it was actually your fault..and we are making a major exception your you!! Who makes people like time managers in a customer centric role!

We walked out of the place finally after almost two hours and a lot of argument…..with our evening all ruined…And I looked at Mr Rajesh’s card which had the Fame tag line printed on the back “Fame…Makes my day!” and we all laughed…..how ironical….
Bottom line: Honestly I don’t know who was at fault….but the way it was handled was pathetic…it was a case of horrible customer service.
Bottom line 2 : We missed the movie but ended up going to a new coffee shop had a nice time!

Saturday, August 30, 2008

Teach India : Week 5 - A Disappointment…:-(

I went all enthused for the Teach India session today after two weeks of holidays (Rakhee /Janamastmi Saturdays) only to be disappointed.
There was some program going on in school and barely any children turned up. So today there were more volunteers than students!!
Since I did not have any students for my session, I decided to make use of my time and see how the others were teaching be a silent spectator and get some ideas. I did get some idea’s from other people and I also realized that I was doing a decent job with the kids!


Some idea’s I picked from other which I plan to use with my kiddo’s next week…


1. Play the shopping game- A role play in which one of them is the shopkeeper and the other a customer. This works well especially if you have girl students.
2. Read the news paper with the kids … One of the volunteers was reading the news paper his kids...I this can be used effectivly to make conversation if it is made into a game!
3. Use activity books like find the word in the maze, easy crosswords etc
4. Read out a story to the kids.

Being a silent spectator is not my natural style I was quite bored and came back home in an hour and slept!

Friday, August 29, 2008

Exhausted…..

Been a hectic week…. I am sooo exhausted. Looks like I am getting old. But I managed to put a blog post everyday…not bad na…..


The week that was in very brief…

Late Friday night…preparing for “ I object your honor” and dinner at good old Mac Donnalds!
Early morning last Saturday for “I object your Honor” and late night…dinner at Basalico!
Early Sunday morning….Lonavala
Early Monday morning…Review meeting at work…
Late night at work on Tuesday…don’t even remember why
Very Early Wednesday Morning…reached office by 7.30am
Very late night on Thursday….. extempore meeting on general strategy fart….reached home by 11.30 pm
Long Friday evening…..drove to Juhu from Vikroli for a Rotary Interview..ready to crash to bed...

Plan to CELEBRATE Saturday and sleep all morning…..Thank God for weekends!!! Have a nice weekend!! Good night...

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Dilemma and Confusion!

I am going to be tell you a small story…it is “inspired” from none other then our very own bollywood…and how many of you’ll have watched “Bunty Aur Bubby”….well my story also has two thieves and a policeman….and ofcourse me…!

But since the story is only inspired and not copied…the similarity ends there!

I am gonna talk about…..this man and a women who haunted me for many days and nights….made me think 24/7 ….have puts me through a lot of pain…..god its almost torture….I hate it….but they are still there….this thing…I mean people don’t only bothers me….but also all my close friends….through me..
And you know what…its me who nurtured them….made them grow …

Here’s introducing to you the “thieves” or the bad guys in my story…today…..the monsters who are build in my head… who possesses me when they come….who may with a new disguise every time….and maybe with a different name….but I know the soul is the same….and I think its my fault they come….

u know what I am sure he must be possessing you guys to many a times…and when I introduce him….i am sure some of you will recognize him….


Ladies and Gentlemen here is presenting to you…the bad guys of today’s story…

“Ms Dilemma De-Cruz”

And her Chinese friend

Mr CON – FU –SION

Recognize them..?

Many of you would be familiar with the Chinese guy by the Indian pronunciation of his name confusion and Ms D-Cruz by his first name “Dilemma”

Yes ladies and gentlemen its these are the two things Dilemma and Confusion who rule and ruin my life! And I am fighting a loosing battle to get back some control!

They are born when there are options to choose from…and the .if all options are equally good or Bad….these demons have a field day…

I am a confused soul…..I don’t know what I want out of life…..and I can be very fickle minded….

I have trouble decisions…be it small ones like which topic to speak on…for toastmasters there is soo much to talk on…or big decisions as to which guy I should get married to..(not that there are too many options there to choose form! But still!)….

I’ll share something that happened with me quite recently….

May 29th 2006…I am about to get a release form my ongoing project…I get a call from one of the big bosses saying Singapore is your next assignment….30th May 2006…I get a call from another not so big boss saying Mumbai is an option and then the torture began…I was suffering….and so were all my close friends and any guesses who was the culprit….well not the bosses in TCS that comes latter … it was none other then me myself and my two ghosts …of confusion and dilemma…


I could not decide….weather I want to go to Singapore for an onsite assignment or try for a transfer back home to Mumbai…..both great options…one my first onsite opportunity....short one but still…the other the option to go back home…..something I always wanted to…

I did all the methods from the DAR session I attended in this very room…and spoke to all my friends and seniors…and as expected….came to contradicting conclusions…..would give “Go” higher priority and the other gave “Don’t Go” Higher priority…..people said..onsite opportunity…difficult to get in TCS now grab it…others said…go back home…once you go onsite and come back you will be stuck in hyderbad for a long time to come….what to do I do…confusion and dilemma prevailed strong…as both the options were good in their own way….

So what did I do …thought contemplated and agonized…..but took no action…

and then finally I could take it anymore and complained to the police force to take some action and chase dilemma and confusion away..

There came the policeman “ Mr Dession Demello”…but alas…Mr Decision was too week due to lack of exercise as he has not been called to action too often and every time and could not do much……

Ultimately after almost 2 months of agony…fate intervened to help Mr Decision Demello and removed the options….options were akin to air….for the monsters of my story and thus they died a natural death…and Mr Decision finally overcame the confusion and Dilemma and I was off to singapore and back now standing here and telling you this story!

All worked out well at the end….But at what cost…? Was the mental torture and the uncertainty and the repeated discussions…worth the trouble…maybe not… if only my policeman Mr Decision had been stronger….the demons of confusion and dilemma would not have played on my mind and ruined soo many days of my life…


Ok so what am I going to do about it….? Help Mr Decision to be come stronger…so that next time when confusion and dilemma raise their ugly head…The Police Decision can chop their heads off at the first stage and let peace prevail….

And how am I going to make Mr Desicison stronger….what do u think…well by ensuring he goes to the Gym and exercises ofcouse…


Osho says…take small decisions and stick to them….it helps to strengthen your decisions making capabilities and train you to take bigger decisions and stick to them…

So my excersise are on…!

What I do now is take small decisions and stick to them…like…I will brush my teeth every night before sleeping…or I will have only fruits for lunch for a week…and I will go to the Gym 3 times a week for the next two weeks….

I am hoping my Police Mr Decision becomes stronger…

And when it comes to the next difficult decision of in my life… maybe who I should get married to or which is the next project I should shift to… I fare better then what I did previously…

Just like excising your body…..excising your mind is an ongoing journey…. And as I stand here talking to you the journey continues!

This was a speech I had given long back at a Toastmasters meeting in Hyderabad...I plan to use this as my Project 3 speech at the Mumbai TCS club sometime.

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Early Morning Workshop...

The TCS Toastmasters club organized a two hour Humorous speech workshop starting 7.30 in the morning!!! Crazy is’nt it…who starts a session so early…I guess they they may have though it was a humorous way to begin!


The previous evening on my way back from work…I was contemplating of I should take the trouble to go for the workshop or no…I called up a friend from the club to check who all are coming…and he was like…..”I don’t know…. I am not coming…I think just the organizers and the speaker would be there!”


And I though to myself…chuck it…why take the trouble to get up at 6 in the morning and reach work so early..So I called up the organizers to do some general talk and tell him that I am not planning to come…but he seemed quite enthu and gave me a picture that the workshop would be really good and lot of people have registered etc. So I decided I would get over my laziness and actually try and go for the workshop…and I did!


I generally love workshops….especially if there are the personality development….soft skills types for a number of reasons…
1) Get to meet new people
2) I would like to be a trainer someday….so it is a fun to see different people handle the participants
3) End up learning something new


So since I am an “enthu cutlet” (a slag used by unenthusiastic people of this world for people like me!), I actually reached office at 7.30 for a completely optional session for which the utility was also under dark clouds of suspicion!


I reached office in record time…..15 kms….15 minutes drive end to end! As I pulled into the parking lot….I saw a red color Zen..and then another car and a then a few more! I was pleasantly surprised…Looks like the trainer and the two organizers have arrived with a few of their friends…Thank God I am not going to be all alone!


I stepped into office at 7.30…walked up the stairs to get to my work area…and OH MY GOD….there was a crowd at the reception with two perplexed harried security gourds trying to get entry passes for all those people and wondering what hit them early in the morning...
There were almost 30 people for the session. It may not be a large number by itself, but for someone who was expecting 3 people early morning…it was a shock!


The session per se was not bad! A gentleman called Ajit Kamath who was a corporate trainer was the coach and conductor for the session. The basic objective was to empathize on the importance of non verbal communication to create humor.


It was a normal interactive workshop with group activities.
The key take aways were
1) Weave a story
2) Be descriptive and make the audience travel with you
3) Let the body language be natural
4) Prepare but sound spontaneous


Theoretically I understand everything…..…practically I understand nothing!!


I have signed up to participate in a Humorous speech contest at the club level….I really don’t know what to! Attempting to be humorous can be extremely tricky…especially if you tell your audience…you are going to be humorous!


The bottom line: “Humor is serious business!”

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Dreams...

I got a new book to read today (“Earning the Laundry Stripes” by Manpreet Sodi Someshwar) which was highly recommended to me by someone in my ‘all boys’ sales team...(I am a rookie as far as ‘sales’ is concerned…..enjoying it tremendously for now!)

It seems like an intersting book. If and when I finish reading it I may post my version of the book review here. I have just read the dedication in the begining of the book...and I though it was worth writing about...

This book is for
Mama-Papa
Who taught me to dream
Prasanna
Who keeps those dreams alive
Malvika
Who is a dream come true
I though this was so beautiful and it simply sums up life...
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Your parents teach you to dream...
Your partner is someone who keeps those dreams alive...
You have a baby who is like a dream come true!!
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So people go out there and dream....."The future belongs to those who believe in their dreams" ...and may all your dreams come true!!!

Monday, August 25, 2008

Dropped my Phone....

Today looked like my lucky day… I managed to hitch a ride with boss while going and coming back from work. Boss dropped me at a spot close to home near his ‘sutta shop’ and I got into a rickshaw to go home. Half way home I digged into my bag to sms a friend and realized my phone was not in the bag anymore! I clearly remembered putting it in the outside pocket….but I checked all the various sections in the bag in vain…L My phone was no where to be found…!!

I told my rickshaw driver to take a U- turn and we rushed back to the ‘sutta shop’….looked for my phone all over the place…but did not find it…:-( I asked the people standing around and smoking if they had seen the phone. All of them denied seeing it but they were quite helpful and started looking around the place with me.
Someone suggested…”make a call and see if it rings”. Lukilly the 'Sutta shop' also had a PCO. Tried calling my phone a number of time but I could not get through…(Dolphin Network!). I finally got through the number…someone picked up the phone...but I could not hear anything...
I tried again….the phone was ringing but no one was picking it up any more. Discussions around the 'sutta shop' were gallore…”phone gaya”…”if someone picked up the phone once and is not picking up again…it is not a good sign…
Some of the local ‘men’ around the shop wanted to help this damsel in distress and offered to talk and give ‘dum’ to whoever had the phone…but no one was picking up the phone anymore!!

Finally someone picked up….the phone…I could not hear to clearly….my newly found ‘friends’ came to my rescue to talk to the person who had my phone…and do whatever it takes to get it back!

He spoke with full on josh….”kidhar ho”…”Kaha hai phone” ….and then suddenly handed the receiver to me….

The person at the other end…sounded familiar…he also knew my name….oh my god…it was my boss…I dropped the phone in his car! Thank god! Today was indeed my lucky day!

I don’t have my phone yet…but chances are bright that I will sure get it tomorrow morning!!!

Lesson learnt : Never keep a phone in the outside pocket of your bag!

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Rotaract Saturday...

We were suppose to go for a Water RYLA this weekend….RYLA for those of you’ll who don’t know are RYLA stands for Rotary Youth Leadership Awards. It is camp organized by the Rotary for the youth. The camps normally have a theme and there are talks and activities around the theme. Over all it is fun like camps are always…night out in some remote place are always fun…even if some of the talks are boring.

So Water RYLA, as the name suggest it was all about water. It was suppose to activity oriented 3 days on water conservation, water harvesting and a whole lot of other things related to water.We registered for it, but since we could not bunk work on a Friday(See how dedicated I am!), we tried to get permission to attend the RYLA over the weekend however it did not work!
So we had a weekend free, which was planned to be dedicated to fun at Rotaract…and the plans went down the drain!

So an old friend of mine from my RC Bombay West days, who also with the rotaract district and currently my strongest link to Rotaract activities suggested we go for a RC Churchgate project "I Object Your Honor" which was a mock court room competition.

The project was overall fun. We had to defend a case, present evidence and witness, cross examine the opposition witness. The project could have been handled more professionally, the timings were not adhered to. Overall a nice way to spend a Saturday morning especially since we won the competition!

Friday, August 22, 2008

Ear Wax!

I had a blocked ear because of too much accumulated wax in the ear(self diagnosis) and I could hardly hear anything!I did my bit of self medication and put soliwax but my ear seemed to keep getting worse. The drops were clogging my ear even more. Now along with the feeling of a blocked ear, I could also feel the liquid ear drops making bubbles in the ear canal.

I was uncomfortable and put almost everything I could in my ear….finger…ear buds (was looking for a hair pin but luckily did not find it!). It did not get any better. The only thing I succeeded was in pushing the wax further into the ear canal.I finally got a torch and showed the in house baby doctor(my brother who is a medical student) and he said….ah I can see some wax... but I have never seen a normal ear canal so I don’t know if it is too much!

Then armed with the torch we both went looking inside the ear canals of everyone else in the house. Luckily since it was on rakhee day, we had a lot of ear canals to look into and finally we reached a conclusion that the wax in my ear was too much!

And then the baby doctor opened his ENT book which was as good as new and was tucked away at the bottom of the study table away and looked in the appendix for ear block and found the appropriate page. I was suffering from a classical case of excessive ear wax!!

Did you know ear wax among other things is made of sebum, dirt and dead hair! The hair part was news to me!

I continued with Soliwax multiple times a day with the mindset of the more I put the faster it would get cured. But it just kept getting worse. Now it was the combination of ear wax and ear drops blocking my ear!

I could not hear what people were saying I would laugh at jokes people cracked at work cause everyone was laughing. I don’t know how many inappropriate answers were given by me in the last one week.

And the interesting part was almost everyone had a blocked ear story to share!

Some told me about the time their ear was blocked and a big black stone like mass came out and was hard enough to break the glass, others shared their experiences with the ENT with a fancy head gear and torch, still others gave me advice on how putting oil is better than the ear drops!

Half the advice and stories went un heard or partially heard at the best case…


I finally had enough of it and I should show my ear to the office doctor and get some real advice!

But like my in house baby doctor he could not see any wax in the ear but he could not confess to a patient that he had not seen normal ear canals to make out the difference. I had half of mind of suggesting that I understand his plight and the best way to learn would be to come check out the ear canals of people in office!
Thank god...only half my mind sugested that option


After few more days of Soliwax with no relief I finally decided to go to an ENT!

He pulled my ear and with one look and he said….Oh My God!…so much wax….no wonder you dont listen to you mom! (That was his attempt to humor!)

He picked up a hooked instrument …, put it in my ear….and pulled out a blob of wax…..It felt like someone was pulling out a blob of mud from the muck….paaaaaachaaak….was the loud sound I could hear in my ear….it was ekky….it was creepy…it was scary…but I had to sit still…..and in about 5 seconds it was over out! And I could hear again!!!!

And then it was lecture time….I got a dose on how I should not have used ear buds and how using ear buds and pushed the wax deep inside the ear…and how I could have injured my ear drum in the process…etc etc

And then it came to payment time….900 bucks is what I had to pay for a 5 second procedure and a end to end discussion of 15 minutes!!

It is so ironical, that if I had gone out shopping or gone for dinner and spent the same amount of money…I would not have felt the pinch….but I resent paying a doctor who has given me relief…I realize it is wrong to resent it…. Cause after all he is a professional and this is his way to make a living..

The good thing that came out of this entire episode…is that I learnt to put in my HIS claims!

Current Staus: I have another date with the doctor next week….cause all the blobs of wax in my ear are not out yet….and I am back to putting Soliwax!!